A friend shared a song. I liked it. I kept being drawn to listening to it. I learned the lyrics. I researched what the writer’s message was. I watched the video on youtube. Repeat.
This is how my brain works. It gets stuck on things. I don’t always understand why.
I’m guided that I’m supposed to write about it. This is my why.
I have been working on this piece for a couple of weeks, trying to get the words right as I always do. There has been resistance.
Last night I was given the gift of a ladies night out with my boss. There were two amazing speakers with much knowledge to share. If you have an opportunity to see Dr Jody Carrington or Jess Tetu speak – grasp it. There were many lessons and laughs with these ladies, and just as each church sermon will have the lesson or education in it that you need in the moment – so did last night speakers for me. Jess shared her life story of overcoming the dark, of her family loss, suicide, addictions and abuse. Jody shared “I’m fine, yea I’m good” and our emotional disconnect.
Holy hell. I’ve been thinking and writing about this and I hear it last night and I felt so connected to each of them and to humanity. To be honest – I didn’t want to go, I dislike crowds, people are not always welcoming and the day had been taxing – but I also knew that Sandy and I needed a motivational speaker, so we went. When Jody spoke of walking each other home – I was in awe and humbled. I didn’t know this quote even existed other than in my head, I immediately know I was meant to be there.
Learn to watch for signs and synchronicities in your world.
As these ladies spoke and I was ✅✅✅✅’ing things that had happened to me or that I could relate to. The next thing that I thought of was – how many other women in this room have these ✅’s too. We all have them.
Butterfly moment – sorry! The song that grabbed my attention is Truth be told by Matthew West.
Give it a listen.
The truth is rarely told. This is golden. I’ve wrote about this before. We are asked – how are you? We respond – I’m good or I’m fine. I don’t think this is truth for most. Why is fine the default setting in our brain?
“I’m fine, yea I’m fine, oh I’m fine, hey I’m fine. ” This is likely the biggest and most often lie told.
It is our nature to hide the difficult things that happen to us. Why are the hard things not easy to share? Are we worried about judgement? Are we worried about burdening others? Maybe we have a hard time describing how we are feeling. Maybe being vulnerable is the hardest task of all.
I’m fine is the safety blanket of feelings. We say it because it helps us avoid further questions. Maybe it halts conflict.
How are you? “I’m not fine, I’m broken. “
Talking about how we feel, opens up the wounds. Honesty about how you are feeling and what you are thinking should be accepted and easy. It should feel ok to be truthful. I’ve talked about this before in some of my other writings. We need to normalize sharing emotions in our society.
Be Authentic humans.
“keep your messes and your wounds and your secrets safe with you behind closed doors”
“cause when it’s out of control I say it’s under control. But it’s not and you know it”
Am I fine? me, no I am not. I try to be.
But – having problems doesn’t mean I am a problem. I think now more than ever, people are struggling. Dr Jody confirmed this last night. Her words “You can’t address what you don’t acknowledge” linked right up with what I was trying to share with you.
IF you don’t acknowledge what you feel, it’s stays inside you – and it just layers up and layers up until you can’t breathe. What if you could tell just one person that you are not ok?
There is something stuck in my brain from the first day I started writing this post. Somehow I feel like this thought has something to do with where we are at in our world.
“Children are meant to be seen and not heard.” I could say this is quoted by Sandra 1974-1988, however I think many parents and grandparents used these words 😂
So – What if – children were raised to be seen and heard? Would they be more confident and comfortable in their own selves to share what is on their mind or under and how they feel and share it? Would they learn this was normal?
Maybe. If we are doing it too. Let yourself be seen and heard.
I encourage you to check out the song by Matthew West –
And if you get a chance to scroll on social media today – follow Dr Jody Carrington and Jess Tetu. We can all use a bit of their sunshine in our worlds. You would be untruthful if you said you didn’t.
We can do better for each other. Check in on your friends and family today ❤️ ✌🏻
Walking Home 